Incessant and Escalating Fighting: You’ve been fighting every day for months and their intensity is escalating by the day. It’s constant screaming and they may even be bordering on getting physical. People who are experiencing this justify it by saying they are just passionate people or the classic excuse of they wouldn’t be fighting if they didn’t love each other so much. It’s bullshit. How could fighting and throwing below the belt insults you can’t take back mean you’re in love? All it means is you’re in an awful relationship. If you love someone you don’t try and hurt them. If you find yourself in this position, get out ASAP because it’s not working out.
Feelings of Hatred and Indifference: Not surprisingly, all that fighting eventually leads to feelings of hatred and then finally no feeling at all. You simply just don’t care. You could walk in on your girlfriend having a 12 man orgy and you’d likely just turn around, walk to the kitchen and make a sandwich, and be no worse for wear. You’ve lost all feeling for your partner at this point and it just doesn’t matter. You know it’s over but for some reason you won’t just break it off. This would be a great time to just let go but a lot of people don’t.
Actively Trying to Get Your Partner to Break-up With You: You’re beyond hating, you’re beyond caring but you don’t have the balls to break it off so you’re determined to become the worst boyfriend in the world. You don’t talk to your significant other. You’re basically leading two completely different lives. The only thing you have in common is that you live at the same address. You go out all night, get drunk, and probably even cheat. You’re discreet about none of this because you want her to have a reason to break-up with you. Why can’t you just do it on your own? Who knows? There may be a part of you that feels bad. You might be comfortable living where you are. Either way, you’re praying every day that your indiscretions will lead to her just kicking you out.
Honestly, all three of these stages are horrible and no way to live. I’m not saying every fight should lead to a break-up but if you get to this point just let it go. You’re not doing her any favors by staying and you’re certainly not doing yourself any either. Once things start to go bad, break it off and do it fast. Start a new life and learn from your mistakes.
Article By: Jon DaBove