The early stages of dating are usually very fun. You’re meeting someone new. You’re stepping out of your comfort zone. It’s one of the joys of being a single guy. Unfortunately, the days of the drive-in movie are long gone and the days of dating websites have just begun so it’s become a more complex scene. Simplicity in dating is no more and it can make for some very strange experiences, I know because I’ve been there. There are a few red flags that every single guy should be aware of. If a woman throws any one of these up then there should be no second or third date regardless of what you’re looking for. Take heed, gentleman.
She Doesn’t Ask You Questions: It might take you a while to pick up on this but if you’re on a first date and you find that you’re asking all the questions and she’s making no attempt to get to know anything about you, this is a red flag. I’m not talking about her being shy. Shy is okay, especially on a first date. I’m talking about her going on her about job, family, and stupid dog she carries around in a purse and not even asking you what you like to eat for breakfast. This means she has no interest in getting to know you, she’s self –centered, narcissistic, and in my experience just a weirdo in general. If you find a girl doing this, don’t just walk, run.
She Says Crazy Shit About her Sexuality: You know those innocent sexual questions and innuendos that pop up during a first or second date where a girl admits she once had sex on a beach at night? Yeah, those are normal. When that innocent sexual banter turns into your date telling you she once had a six guy gangbang or that her list of partners is approaching triple digits then it’s time to get out your running shoes. I hate to say it, I really do, but no girl who is functioning on a normal level would ever do anything like this. She made out with her college roommate once? Okay, that’s cool. She blew a guy at a truckstop gloryhole? Not so much. Head for the hills, even in a friends with benefits situation you don’t want a girl who’s been ridden more than the Great American Scream Machine.
She Takes Forever to Respond to Texts and Calls: The early stages of dating are supposed to be exciting. You’re supposed to text, call, and just be generally excited to communicate with one another. If you text her “good morning” on your way to work and she responds at 9 at night with “hey” that’s not cool. She had about 14 hours to text back but didn’t. Let’s put this to rest once and for all, nobody is ever too busy to return a text. There is no such thing. I can all but guarantee that the most powerful trial lawyer in NYC texts his girl or wife during the day. If he can, then so can the girl you’re dating. Obviously there are exceptions like maybe her phone died or she got called into an emergency meeting and left her phone at her desk but those things don’t happen often. If she does this on a regular basis, forget her, because she doesn’t give a shit about you. Look at it this way, she’s going about her day and she knows you texted her but responding to you is the least important thing on her agenda. Don’t text her back ever again.
She Mentions Her Ex: A quick “my ex was such an ass” is no big deal but excessively talking about her ex whether positively or negatively is a big deal. If she’s talking about him positively, it’s just annoying. If she’s talking about him negatively, it’s less annoying but still rude. Either way, it means she’s still thinking about him. It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s still into him but she obviously hasn’t gotten over it. It’s not fair to you to try and get to know a girl who obviously has ex issues. She’s not giving you her best so why should you give her yours? It’s a waste of your time so make a bunk.
She Gets Wasted: She gets tipsy? Cool. She gets drunk? Not great but not a huge deal. She gets fall down wasted? That should be the last date. I mean on the first or second date you’re both trying to make a good impression. If she can’t forego one night of being Jersey Shore drunk then she’s probably kind of a weirdo and not very classy at all. Plus, it’s such a pain in the ass having to get a blackout drunk girl home. And the cardinal rule is that overly drunk girls are as annoying as the day is long. Make sure she gets in her apartment, lock the door up tight and never call again.
Article By: Jon DaBove
