We all go through dry spells in terms of the lady folk and I’m not just talking about sex here either. There are times in every man’s life when he can’t get a phone number from a hooker. What I’m trying to say is that a dry spell is natural; no guy is going to bat a thousand every time he steps on the field. To be honest, there isn’t a lot you can do. You can go out more, hit on more chicks but if you keep getting brushed off that’s not going to help either. It’s best to chalk it up to bad luck and jump in heavy in a couple of weeks. However, if this lasts too long, something could be wrong. I mean, if a million people say they saw a ghost you’d probably believe them. If a million girls have shot you down you might want to start believing them, meaning there’s probably something wrong with you champ. Looking inward can be difficult but sometimes it’s essential and it’s good to be self-aware overall. You could be doing any number of things wrong but ultimately a dry spell is usually the result of one of three things. Here’s the list. If you’re having one or all of these problems get a grip and try to fix them.
You’re lacking confidence: Ask any woman what she thinks of a timid guy who is obviously unsure of himself. You might as well pack up your dick and go because you have zero chance of getting with any chick. Who’s going to like you if you don’t like yourself? And mind you, confidence cannot be faked. You can tell yourself you’re feeling great about yourself until you almost believe it but those around you can tell it’s not real. It has to be real for other people to see it so do what you have to do in order to be truly confident from the inside whether it’s working out, getting a better haircut, or stepping up your wardrobe.
You look like crap: The percentage of guys who can actually dress is extremely small. Truth be told, the man really does make the clothes. Why do you think there are so many guys in designer clothes that look average at best? But still, wearing old jeans and a stained t-shirt to a bar isn’t going to cut it. Rule of thumb, wear black. You can never go wrong with black. You can do whatever you want with black from a bespoke suit to a button down shirt. You also have to be very fashion challenged to screw up a pair of black slacks and a black shirt so it’s fool proof. It’s crisp, clean, and classy which will make you stand out anywhere.
You’re saying all the wrong things: If a girl is into you she’ll be forgiving of a lot of things you say, like when you tell her about your trip to Comic Con last year. She might find it endearing that you’re a geek but if you find yourself striking out constantly then your approach or conversation topics might suck. If you’re talking about your old Master’s thesis on density matrix and Born’s Rule you’re going to lose her. If you’re talking about your golf outing you’re going to lose her. It’s boring and not relatable. Keep it simple. Ask about her job and what movies she’s seen lately. Compliment her. But make sure to keep any smooth guy routine you think you may have to yourself during a dry spell. It is all but guaranteed to backfire.
Article By: Jon DaBove
